Articles
Everything I know about navigating the human side of work — written for analytical minds.
From Autopilot to Choice
When something happens, your nervous system reacts before your mind catches up.
A comment in a meeting. An email tone. A look across the room.
Your reflexes jump in immediately.
You need to protect yourself — and attack feels like the best defence.
Words come out. Doors slam. Emails get sent.
Afterwards, you wonder: why did I do that?
Psychology calls this the stimulus-response pattern. Instant. Automatic.
TRIGGER → REACTION
Ancient instincts — reactions without thinking — are brilliant when survival is at stake.
But your typical working day isn't a life-or-death situation.
That difficult colleague. That tense meeting. That feedback conversation. These don't need survival reflexes.
The shift:
TRIGGER → [PAUSE] → RESPONSE
Many people never learn to use the pause. They experience trigger → reaction as one seamless, inevitable event — and wonder why life feels so complicated.
Everything changes when you slow down. You notice the story your mind tells. You question it. You choose your response instead of being hijacked by the first impulse.
That's the pause. That's the skill. That's where everything I teach begins.
Once you understand the pause, you can apply it everywhere.
And suddenly your interactions with humans bring joy and your life quality has risen.
WHERE ARE YOU STUCK RIGHT NOW?
Self-Debug
"Strange things happen to me all the time. Life is so hard... there is no logic!"
You're intelligent. You solve complex problems for a living.
But when it comes to your own patterns — why you snap, shut down, or overthink — the logic fails.
This section is where you begin. Understanding what's actually happening inside before trying to change what's happening outside.
People problems
"Team friction drains me more than the work itself"
The same conflicts keep happening. Conversations go sideways. You leave meetings more exhausted than when you arrived.
This section covers team dynamics, difficult conversations, and why "just communicate better" advice never works — plus what actually does.
Sustainable High Performance
"Exhausted but can't stop"
You know the theory: rest, boundaries, self-care.
But knowing isn't doing.
Something keeps you pushing past the point of diminishing returns.
This section explores burnout patterns, the overachiever trap, and what sustainable excellence actually looks like — without the toxic productivity nonsense.
